IGNORANCE IS BLISS

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Being ignored is sadly just a part of life. Everyone typically goes through it at some point. It’s easy to feel hurt when someone ignores you, but there is usually a bigger picture you aren’t seeing. We all go through a range of feelings based on our different circumstances. Not everyone is going to like you or treat you well, no matter what you do.  How you deal with it is simple, you don’t bother with it. They are humans just like you, and you should treat them as such. You are giving it more meaning than it has. Perhaps reaching out, answering your texts, calling back or being normal is too much for that person? You are taking on all that hurt, all that rejection and sadness, and it has no meaning whatsoever except that you are choosing to feel that way. But you don’t deserve to go through all such and you are doing injustice to yourself. That is not anything they do, that is how you are reacting.  And there’s no reason to do that, it’s not about you. You are causing yourself undue hurt, and harm.
If you feel it’s your fault somehow, then talk to the person about it; reflect on your recent actions; explain your feelings. However, if it doesn’t help, then one should not get frustrated and make a scene. Scenes are not good, in any case, since it makes you look as though you have issues, though you are frustrated. Sometimes it may not be your fault at all. They might just want to be left alone in their lives. Or they might not like you very much in the first place and may in fact be happy that you are out of their lives. Don’t try to push yourself or you’ll find yourself harming yourself or the people around you. If they don’t want to associate with you for any number of reasons, then don’t associate with them. Even if it is tearing you up inside, this can be an effective solution over time. Take the hint and don’t bother to amend ties with them again. There are 7 billion other people in the world just waiting for you! People ignore for so many reasons, but the point is that you need to move on and make new friends.
Be glad when you can help somebody, even though they ignore you. You’ve accomplished something and you should feel good about it, not broken. They’ll realize it sooner or later. If they don’t appreciate it, that’s it. No need for suffering. Nothing is permanent. You can’t always change someone’s mood to being polite if they want to be rude. Initially it will take some time to move on but start ignoring them. Focus on your own growth instead and trust me you will eventually feel better because this way you will give them no right to hurt you or make you feel low in any way. Humans are unpredictable. Kids will cry when they need your attention and adults will ignore you when they seek your attention. What I’ve learnt is , you can’t force someone to be a part of your life. When a person chooses to ignore you, it does hurt but you have to be better than they are, you have to learn to let go. Sometimes it’s the best option to let them figure out what they need to figure out on his own. If they ask you whats wrong ( believe me this moment will arrive) just give them a nice piece of mind. If they realize their mistake then you will win. If they don’t, still you win ! There is nothing to feel low about. People who shut doors on you…just let them know that those doors can be locked from either side.

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15 thoughts on “IGNORANCE IS BLISS

  1. This article can be helpful for a lot of people out there who suffer from the adverse effects of ‘ghosting’ ie ignorance from others…. And learning to move on is something they should do, but dont

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  2. Agreed! .Sayings are really easy but yeah! of course, you are quite right.
    ” People who shut doors on you…just let them know that those doors can be locked from either side.”
    Well framed article and definitely heals a broken heart.

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  3. Nice lines. I read some of them twice to feel the pleasure and intensity again. Sometimes they don’t want to talk. And choose to shut the door. You also can shut the door from inside. Amazing.

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