IGNORANCE IS BLISS

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Being ignored is sadly just a part of life. Everyone typically goes through it at some point. It’s easy to feel hurt when someone ignores you, but there is usually a bigger picture you aren’t seeing. We all go through a range of feelings based on our different circumstances. Not everyone is going to like you or treat you well, no matter what you do.  How you deal with it is simple, you don’t bother with it. They are humans just like you, and you should treat them as such. You are giving it more meaning than it has. Perhaps reaching out, answering your texts, calling back or being normal is too much for that person? You are taking on all that hurt, all that rejection and sadness, and it has no meaning whatsoever except that you are choosing to feel that way. But you don’t deserve to go through all such and you are doing injustice to yourself. That is not anything they do, that is how you are reacting.  And there’s no reason to do that, it’s not about you. You are causing yourself undue hurt, and harm.
If you feel it’s your fault somehow, then talk to the person about it; reflect on your recent actions; explain your feelings. However, if it doesn’t help, then one should not get frustrated and make a scene. Scenes are not good, in any case, since it makes you look as though you have issues, though you are frustrated. Sometimes it may not be your fault at all. They might just want to be left alone in their lives. Or they might not like you very much in the first place and may in fact be happy that you are out of their lives. Don’t try to push yourself or you’ll find yourself harming yourself or the people around you. If they don’t want to associate with you for any number of reasons, then don’t associate with them. Even if it is tearing you up inside, this can be an effective solution over time. Take the hint and don’t bother to amend ties with them again. There are 7 billion other people in the world just waiting for you! People ignore for so many reasons, but the point is that you need to move on and make new friends.
Be glad when you can help somebody, even though they ignore you. You’ve accomplished something and you should feel good about it, not broken. They’ll realize it sooner or later. If they don’t appreciate it, that’s it. No need for suffering. Nothing is permanent. You can’t always change someone’s mood to being polite if they want to be rude. Initially it will take some time to move on but start ignoring them. Focus on your own growth instead and trust me you will eventually feel better because this way you will give them no right to hurt you or make you feel low in any way. Humans are unpredictable. Kids will cry when they need your attention and adults will ignore you when they seek your attention. What I’ve learnt is , you can’t force someone to be a part of your life. When a person chooses to ignore you, it does hurt but you have to be better than they are, you have to learn to let go. Sometimes it’s the best option to let them figure out what they need to figure out on his own. If they ask you whats wrong ( believe me this moment will arrive) just give them a nice piece of mind. If they realize their mistake then you will win. If they don’t, still you win ! There is nothing to feel low about. People who shut doors on you…just let them know that those doors can be locked from either side.

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PROCRASTINATION

tumblr_mvrrd78wcy1qc4uvwo1_500This long word literally means putting “forward” to “tomor­row”; for it is derived from the Latin word, eras, “tomorrow”, and prefix pro, “before” or “forward.” Of course it is sometimes necessary and wise to postpone a decision or an action, where hasty conclusions would be foolish; but “procrastination” always means putting things off tomorrow which ought to be done to­day. Everyone procrastinates. We put things off because we don’t want to do them, or because we have too many other things on our plates. Putting things off—big or small—is part of being human. You love the rush of adrenalin you get when you finish a paper ten minutes before it’s due, but you (and your body) are getting tired of pulling all-nighters. You feel okay about procrastinating while in college, but you worry that this habit will follow you into your working life.
Procrastination, if it is not firmly checked, soon grows into bad habit, which at last makes the punctual performance of daily duties impossible. The first reason why procrastination is bad is because the quality of work suffers. Another big problem is that you run out of ideas. At one sitting ideas don’t come as freely as they do over several days. Procrastination also affects the quality of work because your assignments looks hurried and just thrown together.
Another danger that comes with procrastination is an increase in stress. When an assignment is left to the last minute, it lingers in the back of your mind the whole time. Once the day arrives that you must do it, any other plans must be put on hold. You end up being frustrated and upset with yourself, and the teacher. If several assignments are due at the same time the stress increases even more. Not only do you have to rush to get everything done, you have to worry about whether you’ll get it finished in time. Stress also increases when you procrastinate because you start to doubt yourself. When you make up your mind that you won’t leave the next assignment until the last minute, and you end up doing it, you get frustrated and upset with yourself.
The last and most important reason is because you learn poor work habits. As you further your education you will no longer be able to leave things to the last minute. When you make excuses to put off assignments, you learn to make excuses for other things as well. This is a bad pattern to get into, you start to realize that you won’t get it done early so why bother trying. Once you start to doubt yourself, your self-confidence drops and all kinds of other problems start to happen.
If you think you are a hopeless procrastinator, take heart! No one is beyond help. The fact that you procrastinate does not mean that you are inherently lazy or inefficient. It is a habit that has some specific origin, and it is a habit that you can overcome. For most procrastinators, however, there are no quick fixes. You aren’t going to wake up tomorrow and never procrastinate again. You may not be surprised to learn that procrastinators tend to be self-critical. So, as you consider your procrastination and struggle to develop different work habits, try to be gentle with yourself.
The lazy man says, “Never do to-day what you can put off till to-morrow.” But the wise and busy man takes as his motto the old proverb, “Never put off till to-morrow what you can do to­day.” And the man who systematically clears off the work that belongs to each day as it comes, not only avoids the mental burden of unperformed duties, but is also the only man who knows true leisure. For at the end of the day, he can spend what time remains in recreation and enjoyment with a clear conscience, knowing he is well ahead with his work.

So we should take as our motto, “Do it now!”

FYI, I am the biggest procrastinator….hi !!

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BEAUTY LIES IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER

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The phrase “beauty lies in the eyes of beholder” points to the fact that different people find different sights as pleasing or beautiful. Put another way, the beauty of same object or sight may be assessed differently by different person. Thus a thing is beautiful not because of some intrinsic physical feature it possesses by because of the the likes and preferences of the person viewing the object. Thus the beauty is something that exists in the mind of the person seeing it. Thus the word eyes has been used here figuratively to represent the mind and feelings of the person seeing – the beholder. It is our emotions that help us to understand the world in a different way than others.  My mood can play a major role in understanding the painting because when I am in a good mood I would see the colors in a cheerful way while I am in a bad mood I would see them as outrageous thing which will somehow effect my opinion in the paining .In conclusion my feelings and my mood can greatly effect my opinion about the painting.Our culture can play a great role in our understanding of the painting and in the way we see this painting, for example I am a girl who lives in a preservative family where my parents have taught me not to look at nude painting. So when I look at a nude painting I would find it very interesting no matter how bad the artist was because I have never seen a naked body before, so for me the idea of such a painting draws my attention to the max, so my judgment on the painting would differ from the judgment of others.

“Beauty is only skin deep” and “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” can be very controversial quotes to some people. Those quotes are all based on how they are viewed by other people. You may not believe in them but other might believe strongly in them. First, “Beauty is only skin deep” all depends on what type of person you are. Both quotes rate directly to each other but let’s pull them apart separately. I think that ‘Beauty is only skin deep’ is expressed in many ways by people. If you are not one of those beautiful people in this world then to some people you mean nothing. When you look around a normal school you see clicks right? Well that’s what I am talking about. You see the people who express them selves by wearing darker clothes, and the people who always wear the trendy and instyle clothes. Sometimes you get jealous and say mean things because either you wished you looked like them or you want the things they have. But we were all created differently. You have to like yourself first for anyone else to like you. Relating to ‘Beauty is only skin deep’ means that people only look at what’s inside that counts. Some people believe at love at first sight…what is all that about? That means they like the person just from seeing them. So many people in this world can relate. People judge people. You look around and think by the clothes or hairstyle this girl wears that she can either not afford them or chooses to be that way. So you think she is poor. Doesn’t she deserve your attention too ?? I think that beauty is over rated. People need to look at your mind, your intelligence.

What one person finds as enjoyable, doesn’t necessarily appeal to someone else. Such as it is with people, and those we like to be with. Certain traits that people have, appeal to others in varying ways. What one person sees as good in someone, somebody else may not even be bothered to give the time of day to. The perception of what is beautiful is purely subjective. While there are things which are universally accepted as beautiful, their appeal to the individual as beautiful varies from person to person. For example, a Madagascar hissing beetle may be revolting to one person, but a thing of incredible beauty to another. But while it is pretty much an accepted standard that there is no ugliness in anything natural the appeal of certain things in nature will vary from person to person. It means that you are beautiful in the eyes of others in different ways…Like I could look at a slum area and see beauty because they truly care for one another while another person would look at it as disgusting…Do you see now ??

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SHUBHO MAHALAYA

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“Ya devi sarbabhuteshshu, shakti rupena sanksthita Namasteshwai Namasteshwai Namasteshwai namo namaha.”

The loose translation would be “O Goddess who permeates all things and is manifested today as Strength, I bow to thee, I bow to thee, I bow to thee over and over”.
As the Durga Puja gets nearer, one can find every Bengali waiting eagerly with a smile on his face. This autumnal festival brings in a wisp of freshness in the air in welcome of Mother Durga. The clear blue sky, the mild fragrance of the white Shiuli flowers, the swaying of the Kash flowers in the fields and the shakti chants make the entire atmosphere holy. This festival in the autumn or Sharat signifies the power of the female Shakti, the ten armed Goddess Durga, over all that is bad and evil. Durga Puja is a festival like no other for the Bengalis but it also spells the start of the great Indian festival season. People dress up in all finery and visit pandals to see grand Durga statues, meet other community members, relish traditional food and share the warm feeling of bonhomie.
Today is Mahalaya. It is a very special and sentimental day for the Bengali community, which gets up at 4 AM to listen to the rendition of Mahishasura Mardhini, or destruction of the demon or evil forces by the powerful Goddess Durga. The song played on radio is the age-old rendition by Birendra Krishna Bhadra (left photo). Bhadra is no more, but his song for the Goddess is forever. That broadcast on All India Radio really sets the mood for Durga Puja and Navratri. Even from a distance, the sounds of dhaak – the traditional Bengali drums beaten with sticks – can be heard. Its distinctive sound is literally the rhythm divine, associated as it is with the spiritual aura that seems all-pervasive during this festive season.
The four main days of puja are called Maha Shasthi, Maha Saptami, Maha Ashtami and Maha Navami. The festivities begin from Maha Shashthi (the sixth day from the day after mahalaya) when the priest unveils the deity during a puja known as Bodhan. And the fifth day is called Bijoya Dashami or Dusshera, when the Goddess is immersed in water. But the most important days of puja are Ashtami and Navami.
The Durga Puja gives us a chance to heal our wounds, to let go of our angers, and share this tranquil joy with one and all. And one thing that makes the Durga Puja unique is its representation of our culture. It is an occasion not only for worship, but also celebration, music, dance and everything that make our culture unique.
Wishing everyone a very happy and fun-filled durga puja !!

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Have no FEAR, when YOU are here

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Fear keeps us in the background. It convinces us we can never accomplish our dreams, tells us to keep quiet, and separates us from the ones we love. Fear has an unparalleled ability to freeze us in our tracks, and limit what we are willing to try. Fear makes us lead a smaller life. All fears, no matter how big or small are worse when we face them alone. We tend to resist admitting our fears because we are afraid that people will think less of us, that they will laugh or make things worse. It’s good to get a friend or a close person to confide our fears in them.
Fear is not a bad thing. It exists for our protection as an early warning signal. But there is a big difference between the healthy fear that tells us to step away from the edge of a cliff and a constant fear that keeps us from living our life. Fear can be used as a tool to help us identify problems and solve them effectively. It’s a guidepost, a red flag that warns us when something needs attention. Once the discomfort of the initial wave of fear passes, one can examine it more closely to see what can learned from it. The same things we fear also incite feelings of exhilaration and even passion. That’s why people enjoy extreme sports, horror movies and swimming with sharks on vacation.
It’s easy to ignore or deny our fears, even to ourselves, in a society that stresses the importance of being strong and brave. But courage can’t come into play unless you have a fear to face down. By owning your feelings you’ve taken the first step toward gaining control over the situation.  There are no hero points awarded for going into a personally threatening situation though, but one must conquer their fears. However, if the threat is more mental than physical, actually doing the thing you’re afraid of can be the best antidote of all. Often times we’re afraid of something because we haven’t been exposed to it very much. “Fear of the unknown” is a commonly used phrase to describe the automatic aversion people feel to something that’s different. If you’re afraid of something because it’s a mystery, try exposing yourself to it in small doses until you gain a better understanding and your fear begins to dissipate. Sometimes confronting fears head-on is the best way to overcome them. This is particularly useful if there’s a particular person or situation you’re afraid of.
Don’t wait until your fear has been completely overcome to give yourself a pat on the back for your effort. Celebrate each milestone, whether you told a story to a group of people at a party, saw a spider and realized you didn’t want to run away, or took a trip to a different city by yourself for the first time. When you see how good it feels to gain an edge on your fear, you’ll be ready to face the next one head-on.

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ART AND SOCIETY IN ABILITY FOR CREATIVITY

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Artists have that unique ability to engage individuals in a very deep and personal way. Art can help us understand our humanity and the historical conditions we live in, but importantly draw us into thinking whether our reality needs to be changed.  There is no universally accepted definition of art. Art is a global activity which encompasses a host of disciplines. Different people have different levels and abilities of creativity, much like anything else that is a skill, and everyone can be creative if they want to be.

Creativity (or “creativeness”) is a mental process involving the generation of new ideas or concepts, or new associations between existing ideas or concepts. Learning art and crafts helps us to be more creative in our daily lives too. Evidence from brain research is only one of many reasons education and engagement in fine arts is beneficial to the educational process. The arts develop neural systems that produce a broad spectrum of benefits ranging from fine motor skills to creativity and improved emotional balance. One must realize that these systems often take months and even years to fine-tune. From a scientific point of view, the products of creative thought (sometimes referred to as divergent thought) are usually considered to have both originality and appropriateness. Like other skills, creativity can be developed. Often people will think they aren’t creative because they are basing their opinion on a skill they don’t have, e.g. “I am a lousy painter.” But that doesn’t mean one can’t be creative as a painter even though I make horrid stuff. A lack of creativity is not what is limiting their output as a painter. Art is a field, where one can be highly creative, for creativity begins with a foundation of knowledge, learning a discipline, and mastering a way of thinking. Creativity, the ability to generate novel responses to problems and challenges, in a basic human ability. Some people are encouraged to express their creative ability more than others and may even get rewarded for doing so. Artists, in addition to expressing their creativity, also have traits like manual dexterity, good eye-hand coordination and other skills than enable them to more fully express their creative thoughts.

In western societies people seem to assign certain universal human abilities, like creativity, to only a subset of all people (usually artists, musicians and architects) making it more difficult for all members of society to see themselves as creative people. This is a Western myth that we must be aware of and work to overcome. The roots of Indian art and crafts are entrenched very deep and they are capable of influencing the generations passing by. The present status of craft in India owes much to the rich craft traditions of the past. Most of the crafts from the past continue to flourish due to their utilitarian nature, their availability to the common people, and popularity in domestic and foreign markets. Indian art and crafts is one of the most flourished and demanded one, because it is the most creative form of art.

There are, however, many ways of being creative. Each of us can be creative if we recognize our unique talents and develop mastery in those areas. That is no guarantee that the world will recognize us, but it does provide the soul satisfaction that comes with living a creative life. Thus, we can freely assert that creativity is found in all people and that creative talents can be increased with study.

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TRUST IS CONFIDENCE

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Trust is confidence in ourselves, others and our sense of the Divine. Trust takes a risk; in the absence  of certainty, it assumes that goodness, truth, honour, fairness or ability.
Trust is the very thing that everybody in this world desires, or at least should desire from one another. Who wants to have a friendship or relationship without trust ? Nobody does. Without trust, there is no friendship, and without friendship, there is no love. It is a special thing to be trusted by someone. To be told you are trusted is an even greater feeling, but one should never take advantage of that trust.
Trust is also something that must also be placed with people you don’t know all that well, or even on people whom you don’t know at all. For example, we have to trust teachers to be teaching us the right things and grading our work fairly. In terms of total strangers, we have to trust doctors to take care of us and give us the right medication or perform surgery, etc. All in all, trust is a very important thing that we must be able to place in different people. In relationships, trust should be valued highly and seen as a true bond between two friends or mates.
Trust becomes resilient when it is grounded in reality – when it recognizes the imperfections and yet sees through – line of goodness that lies beneath and beyond them.

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