BEAUTY LIES IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER

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The phrase “beauty lies in the eyes of beholder” points to the fact that different people find different sights as pleasing or beautiful. Put another way, the beauty of same object or sight may be assessed differently by different person. Thus a thing is beautiful not because of some intrinsic physical feature it possesses by because of the the likes and preferences of the person viewing the object. Thus the beauty is something that exists in the mind of the person seeing it. Thus the word eyes has been used here figuratively to represent the mind and feelings of the person seeing – the beholder. It is our emotions that help us to understand the world in a different way than others.  My mood can play a major role in understanding the painting because when I am in a good mood I would see the colors in a cheerful way while I am in a bad mood I would see them as outrageous thing which will somehow effect my opinion in the paining .In conclusion my feelings and my mood can greatly effect my opinion about the painting.Our culture can play a great role in our understanding of the painting and in the way we see this painting, for example I am a girl who lives in a preservative family where my parents have taught me not to look at nude painting. So when I look at a nude painting I would find it very interesting no matter how bad the artist was because I have never seen a naked body before, so for me the idea of such a painting draws my attention to the max, so my judgment on the painting would differ from the judgment of others.

“Beauty is only skin deep” and “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” can be very controversial quotes to some people. Those quotes are all based on how they are viewed by other people. You may not believe in them but other might believe strongly in them. First, “Beauty is only skin deep” all depends on what type of person you are. Both quotes rate directly to each other but let’s pull them apart separately. I think that ‘Beauty is only skin deep’ is expressed in many ways by people. If you are not one of those beautiful people in this world then to some people you mean nothing. When you look around a normal school you see clicks right? Well that’s what I am talking about. You see the people who express them selves by wearing darker clothes, and the people who always wear the trendy and instyle clothes. Sometimes you get jealous and say mean things because either you wished you looked like them or you want the things they have. But we were all created differently. You have to like yourself first for anyone else to like you. Relating to ‘Beauty is only skin deep’ means that people only look at what’s inside that counts. Some people believe at love at first sight…what is all that about? That means they like the person just from seeing them. So many people in this world can relate. People judge people. You look around and think by the clothes or hairstyle this girl wears that she can either not afford them or chooses to be that way. So you think she is poor. Doesn’t she deserve your attention too ?? I think that beauty is over rated. People need to look at your mind, your intelligence.

What one person finds as enjoyable, doesn’t necessarily appeal to someone else. Such as it is with people, and those we like to be with. Certain traits that people have, appeal to others in varying ways. What one person sees as good in someone, somebody else may not even be bothered to give the time of day to. The perception of what is beautiful is purely subjective. While there are things which are universally accepted as beautiful, their appeal to the individual as beautiful varies from person to person. For example, a Madagascar hissing beetle may be revolting to one person, but a thing of incredible beauty to another. But while it is pretty much an accepted standard that there is no ugliness in anything natural the appeal of certain things in nature will vary from person to person. It means that you are beautiful in the eyes of others in different ways…Like I could look at a slum area and see beauty because they truly care for one another while another person would look at it as disgusting…Do you see now ??

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SHUBHO MAHALAYA

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“Ya devi sarbabhuteshshu, shakti rupena sanksthita Namasteshwai Namasteshwai Namasteshwai namo namaha.”

The loose translation would be “O Goddess who permeates all things and is manifested today as Strength, I bow to thee, I bow to thee, I bow to thee over and over”.
As the Durga Puja gets nearer, one can find every Bengali waiting eagerly with a smile on his face. This autumnal festival brings in a wisp of freshness in the air in welcome of Mother Durga. The clear blue sky, the mild fragrance of the white Shiuli flowers, the swaying of the Kash flowers in the fields and the shakti chants make the entire atmosphere holy. This festival in the autumn or Sharat signifies the power of the female Shakti, the ten armed Goddess Durga, over all that is bad and evil. Durga Puja is a festival like no other for the Bengalis but it also spells the start of the great Indian festival season. People dress up in all finery and visit pandals to see grand Durga statues, meet other community members, relish traditional food and share the warm feeling of bonhomie.
Today is Mahalaya. It is a very special and sentimental day for the Bengali community, which gets up at 4 AM to listen to the rendition of Mahishasura Mardhini, or destruction of the demon or evil forces by the powerful Goddess Durga. The song played on radio is the age-old rendition by Birendra Krishna Bhadra (left photo). Bhadra is no more, but his song for the Goddess is forever. That broadcast on All India Radio really sets the mood for Durga Puja and Navratri. Even from a distance, the sounds of dhaak – the traditional Bengali drums beaten with sticks – can be heard. Its distinctive sound is literally the rhythm divine, associated as it is with the spiritual aura that seems all-pervasive during this festive season.
The four main days of puja are called Maha Shasthi, Maha Saptami, Maha Ashtami and Maha Navami. The festivities begin from Maha Shashthi (the sixth day from the day after mahalaya) when the priest unveils the deity during a puja known as Bodhan. And the fifth day is called Bijoya Dashami or Dusshera, when the Goddess is immersed in water. But the most important days of puja are Ashtami and Navami.
The Durga Puja gives us a chance to heal our wounds, to let go of our angers, and share this tranquil joy with one and all. And one thing that makes the Durga Puja unique is its representation of our culture. It is an occasion not only for worship, but also celebration, music, dance and everything that make our culture unique.
Wishing everyone a very happy and fun-filled durga puja !!

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Have no FEAR, when YOU are here

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Fear keeps us in the background. It convinces us we can never accomplish our dreams, tells us to keep quiet, and separates us from the ones we love. Fear has an unparalleled ability to freeze us in our tracks, and limit what we are willing to try. Fear makes us lead a smaller life. All fears, no matter how big or small are worse when we face them alone. We tend to resist admitting our fears because we are afraid that people will think less of us, that they will laugh or make things worse. It’s good to get a friend or a close person to confide our fears in them.
Fear is not a bad thing. It exists for our protection as an early warning signal. But there is a big difference between the healthy fear that tells us to step away from the edge of a cliff and a constant fear that keeps us from living our life. Fear can be used as a tool to help us identify problems and solve them effectively. It’s a guidepost, a red flag that warns us when something needs attention. Once the discomfort of the initial wave of fear passes, one can examine it more closely to see what can learned from it. The same things we fear also incite feelings of exhilaration and even passion. That’s why people enjoy extreme sports, horror movies and swimming with sharks on vacation.
It’s easy to ignore or deny our fears, even to ourselves, in a society that stresses the importance of being strong and brave. But courage can’t come into play unless you have a fear to face down. By owning your feelings you’ve taken the first step toward gaining control over the situation.  There are no hero points awarded for going into a personally threatening situation though, but one must conquer their fears. However, if the threat is more mental than physical, actually doing the thing you’re afraid of can be the best antidote of all. Often times we’re afraid of something because we haven’t been exposed to it very much. “Fear of the unknown” is a commonly used phrase to describe the automatic aversion people feel to something that’s different. If you’re afraid of something because it’s a mystery, try exposing yourself to it in small doses until you gain a better understanding and your fear begins to dissipate. Sometimes confronting fears head-on is the best way to overcome them. This is particularly useful if there’s a particular person or situation you’re afraid of.
Don’t wait until your fear has been completely overcome to give yourself a pat on the back for your effort. Celebrate each milestone, whether you told a story to a group of people at a party, saw a spider and realized you didn’t want to run away, or took a trip to a different city by yourself for the first time. When you see how good it feels to gain an edge on your fear, you’ll be ready to face the next one head-on.

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ART AND SOCIETY IN ABILITY FOR CREATIVITY

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Artists have that unique ability to engage individuals in a very deep and personal way. Art can help us understand our humanity and the historical conditions we live in, but importantly draw us into thinking whether our reality needs to be changed.  There is no universally accepted definition of art. Art is a global activity which encompasses a host of disciplines. Different people have different levels and abilities of creativity, much like anything else that is a skill, and everyone can be creative if they want to be.

Creativity (or “creativeness”) is a mental process involving the generation of new ideas or concepts, or new associations between existing ideas or concepts. Learning art and crafts helps us to be more creative in our daily lives too. Evidence from brain research is only one of many reasons education and engagement in fine arts is beneficial to the educational process. The arts develop neural systems that produce a broad spectrum of benefits ranging from fine motor skills to creativity and improved emotional balance. One must realize that these systems often take months and even years to fine-tune. From a scientific point of view, the products of creative thought (sometimes referred to as divergent thought) are usually considered to have both originality and appropriateness. Like other skills, creativity can be developed. Often people will think they aren’t creative because they are basing their opinion on a skill they don’t have, e.g. “I am a lousy painter.” But that doesn’t mean one can’t be creative as a painter even though I make horrid stuff. A lack of creativity is not what is limiting their output as a painter. Art is a field, where one can be highly creative, for creativity begins with a foundation of knowledge, learning a discipline, and mastering a way of thinking. Creativity, the ability to generate novel responses to problems and challenges, in a basic human ability. Some people are encouraged to express their creative ability more than others and may even get rewarded for doing so. Artists, in addition to expressing their creativity, also have traits like manual dexterity, good eye-hand coordination and other skills than enable them to more fully express their creative thoughts.

In western societies people seem to assign certain universal human abilities, like creativity, to only a subset of all people (usually artists, musicians and architects) making it more difficult for all members of society to see themselves as creative people. This is a Western myth that we must be aware of and work to overcome. The roots of Indian art and crafts are entrenched very deep and they are capable of influencing the generations passing by. The present status of craft in India owes much to the rich craft traditions of the past. Most of the crafts from the past continue to flourish due to their utilitarian nature, their availability to the common people, and popularity in domestic and foreign markets. Indian art and crafts is one of the most flourished and demanded one, because it is the most creative form of art.

There are, however, many ways of being creative. Each of us can be creative if we recognize our unique talents and develop mastery in those areas. That is no guarantee that the world will recognize us, but it does provide the soul satisfaction that comes with living a creative life. Thus, we can freely assert that creativity is found in all people and that creative talents can be increased with study.

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TRUST IS CONFIDENCE

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Trust is confidence in ourselves, others and our sense of the Divine. Trust takes a risk; in the absence  of certainty, it assumes that goodness, truth, honour, fairness or ability.
Trust is the very thing that everybody in this world desires, or at least should desire from one another. Who wants to have a friendship or relationship without trust ? Nobody does. Without trust, there is no friendship, and without friendship, there is no love. It is a special thing to be trusted by someone. To be told you are trusted is an even greater feeling, but one should never take advantage of that trust.
Trust is also something that must also be placed with people you don’t know all that well, or even on people whom you don’t know at all. For example, we have to trust teachers to be teaching us the right things and grading our work fairly. In terms of total strangers, we have to trust doctors to take care of us and give us the right medication or perform surgery, etc. All in all, trust is a very important thing that we must be able to place in different people. In relationships, trust should be valued highly and seen as a true bond between two friends or mates.
Trust becomes resilient when it is grounded in reality – when it recognizes the imperfections and yet sees through – line of goodness that lies beneath and beyond them.

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WISH HE OPENED UP

A college student stands waiting outside the door of an empty chemistry lab. It is the scheduled hour for chemistry experiment. Standing with him are seven or eight other students, including me, also waiting for the experiment, and also for our fellow other friends. The student fears chemistry, and when it comes to chemistry practical, he is even more scared. Fear clinches to his throat every Tuesday afternoon, when he comes for chemistry practical. Now that the moment has arrived, he is quite nervous. He looks around at the other students, and comforts himself with the thought that he can’t possibly be made too conspicuous. He feared even to talk to his classmates, I seriously wished that he opened up atleast with his close friends. After all, we were all in the same boat !!

Finally the instructor came, and we all followed him into the laboratory like little chicks following their mother hen, with our lab records in one hand, and lab coats in the other. The instructor explained us the experiment and expected us to follow the procedure and carry out the experiment properly. Struggling with his fear, he tried hard to manage himself well in front of his friends; instead he messed up with himself, being made fun of every now and then. He did whatever his friends asked him to do, as if he was here just to follow the orders of his friends and come up to their expectations. Finally, he came up with an answer out of his experiment, an answer which didn’t match with the answers of the other students. A cold sweat drenched him !! People are led to believe that their own perceptions were seriously at variance with of other people. People are put into a state of conflict – they must decide whether to go along with the judgment of others or to stand alone. In either case, they experience misgivings, discomfort, and distress. If they resist, they feel that they may suffer scorn or ridicule from others. If they yield, they may feel that they are cowards and conformists. As such he feared chemistry experiment, and more the instructor, and to top it up, he gave an answer that didn’t match with any of the answer given by the other students. In nervousness and panic, he ended up breaking a test tube, along with a good deal of thrashing from the instructor. Evidently, the subject chemistry, his so-called friends and the instructor were like a stimulus for him, which created a response of fear in him, which resulted him in breaking the test-tubes and panicking. He couldn’t understand if he should go with the answers given by others, or he should stick to his own answer. He was simply confused. He had lost self-confidence, and could not make out as which was right and which was wrong. He wanted to go ahead with his answer, but had the fear of being rejected, made fun of, and being insulted by the instructor. He was afraid that his friends would again made fun of him. On top of all these, his fellow mates were teasing him about being ‘insane’, I could well understand that he was under ‘peer pressure’…

The problem of group pressure in society – pressure strong enough to move individuals to act against their beliefs and values – also raises many social issues which cannot be taken lightly. Peer pressure is one such problem which affects students both mentally and physically; being affected mentally is more dangerous. Although the judging of lines is perhaps not important or realistic in a mundane sense, since it doesn’t immediately remind us of a “real-world” situation, one cannot deny the impact of having one’s sensory input contradicted by everyone else in the group. To avoid such instances, field work is the best option, where a student gets to know the subject in a far better way. He experiences some freedom, and is in a better mental state. The problem is that, field work is not possible in every subject, but it should be encouraged as far as possible. The subject in this story suffers from the fear of chemistry subject, and is under serious peer pressure, which creates a sense of panic in him, and he ends up messing things.

“…Psychology has split and shattered the idea of a ‘person’, and has shown that there is something incalculable in each of us, which may at any moment rise to the surface and destroy our natural balance. We don’t know what we are like. We can’t know what others are like. How, then, can we put any trust in personal relationships, or cling to them in the gathering political storm? In theory we cannot. But in practice we can and do. For the purpose of living, one has to assume that the personality is solid, and the “self” is an entity, and to ignore all contrary evidences.”

                                       -E.M.Foster, “What I Believe”, in Two Cheers for Democracy
(London: Edward Arnold, 1951, pp. 77-78)

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CULTURE AS THE NEW GENOME

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Psychological theories and research often assume that nations are culturally homogeneous and stable. But global demographic, political, and economic changes and massive immigration have sparked new scholarly and policy interest in cultural diversity and change within nations, and this is being used to study psychology, by using some psychological universals. Psychological universals can be defined as those traits, processes, dispositions, or functions that recur across cultures, with at least a subset of each population (e.g., individuals of a specific gender or at a specific developmental stage) exhibiting the trait. Because traits may recur across cultures due to cultural influences alone (via common cultural descent, cultural diffusion, or cultural evolutionary convergence), the strongest test of the universality of a given psychological trait is to search for it across maximally disparate cultures. Our traits, genes and upbringing largely define our personality and psychology. For example, in our home meal times symbolize family time as food is regarded as an important aspect of our culture, and we generally prefer to sit on the floor and eat with folded legs, along with the whole family. But after coming here and eating in mess in the dining table, led me to think of various logics and reasoning, and comparing the environment and culture at home and that in the mess. “Our culture includes our whole system of beliefs, values, attitudes, customs and institutions. It shapes our gender, race and other social relations, and affects the way we perceive ourselves and the world and how we interact with other people and the rest of nature…. it has a central place in the complex notion of sustainability – and whatever form the future takes…” (United Nation of Education Scientific and Cultural Organization, [UNESCO] 2005). Now eating on the dining table, I sometimes feel like, sitting on the floor and eating was backward, and eating on dining table is more sophisticated and luxurious, because of my artificial intelligence which makes me copy and follow the lifestyle here, but I forget that the ancient way of sitting on the floor and eating is scientifically advised as it helps in better digestion. Maybe, it is because of my psychology, that makes me think this way, and probably my old personality is not like before anymore, because the culture here has affected my artificial intelligence, and my mirror-neurons are getting adapted to the culture here.

Personality may be conceptualized as a configuration of cognitions, emotions, and habits activated when situations stimulate their expression. Generally, they determine the individual’s unique adjustment to the world, especially what we learn when we are with our people, of our community, of our culture. By defining culture as core societal values, individualism-collectivism theories trace variation in behavior across cultures explained by core values that exist outside the individual. Thus culture has become a significant new source of evolutionary pressure, which helped select for brains that had even better mirror-neuron systems and the imitative learning associated with them. The result was one of the many self-amplifying snowball effects that culminated in Homo sapiens, the ape that looked into its own mind and saw the whole cosmos reflected inside. The mirror-neuron hypothesis, from the neuroscience point of view, also lends insight into how culture affects our psychology. Mirror neurons are almost certainly involved when an infant first repeats a sound or word that she hears. It may require internal translation: the mapping of sound patterns onto corresponding motor patterns and vice versa. Finally, although the mirror-neuron system evolved initially to create an internal model of other people’s actions and intentions, in humans it may have evolved further—turning inward to represent (or re-represent) one’s own mind to itself. A theory of mind is not only useful for intuiting what is happening in the minds of friends, strangers, and enemies; but in the unique case of Homo sapiens, it may also have dramatically increased the insight we have into our own mind’s’ workings.

Culture, as the new genome in the field of psychology and cognitive science, can be justified in many ways. By defining culture as contexts, ecological system theories hold the potential to address diversity in psychological processes by looking at the interrelationships of individuals and contexts. The theory is applicable to differences in school performance by addressing how children make sense of their environments. By defining culture as caste, cultural-ecological theories move beyond deficit models of cultural differences to explain cultural variations in behavior as a function of psychological processes, particularly perceptions of opportunity and efficacy. By defining culture as capital, structure-agency theories interface the concept of culture as core values with those of context and caste. By defining culture as a set of universally adaptive tools, eco cultural and socio cultural theories posit universal concepts to understand similarities and differences across cultures and variations within cultures as a function of dynamic interactions. By defining culture as intergroup relations, social identity theories see culture in psychological terms and link individual with social-group processes. By defining culture as a dynamic psychological construct, multiple-worlds theories link individuals with contexts and conceptualize people as agentic in negotiating cultural boundaries.

Finally, scholars from different fields are coming together and are moving beyond “giving science away” to understand psychology, artificial intelligence and cognitive science. This has resulted in more integration of scholarly and policy debates on issues of application and ethics, emerging from a coalition of government agencies and professional organizations. The international scholarly community is finding new ways to understand the role of culture in human development without over emphasizing or ignoring either psychological (“micro”) or structural (“macro”) processes. Psychologists are coming together for various interdisciplinary fields to understand cultures as developing systems of individuals, relationships, material and social contexts, and institutions. Whatever the realm, the potential uses of social theory to design intelligent software are numerous and remain largely untapped. For the immediate future, I would argue that artificial intelligence needs social theory as much or more than social theory needs artificial intelligence, and culture can be seen as the new genome.

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IMAGINATION AND REALITY

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Does imagination and dreams have a scientific and philosophical basis ??
For years, psychologists have wondered if dreams affect reality and if reality affects dreams. The two are definitely connected and countless studies have shown that there is a strong connection between the conscious mind when we are awake and the subconscious mind when we are asleep. Scientists and researchers have worked for decades to find a definitive answer as to whether our dreams impact our reality. What is known with a great deal of certainty is that our dreams are impacted by the reality we live each and every day. Some researchers theorize that if reality impacts dreams, then dreams can just as easily impact our reality.
Scriptures try to tell us that the philosophy and science of the ‘unreal’ is as important as the same of the ‘real’. Scientifically, what is unreal is imaginary. However, there are examples wherein it can be shown that imaginary concepts are as important as the real ones. For example, the square root of a negative quantity is an imaginary quantity…both mathematics and physics are incomplete  without imaginary things. A complex number, which has a real part and an imaginary part, can be made real by adding it to its complex conjugate. In a similar way, an imaginary hope (positive dream) can be allayed by an imaginary fear (negative dream) of same weight. In this process, we are left with the realities of life !!
Dreams are a part of life…there is no person who does not dream…the dreams maybe false, the imaginations carry no meaning, but even if none of them is ever realized, they are still life’s greatest treasures !!
Langston Hughes, an American poet, says, “Hold fast to dreams…for when dreams go…life is a barren land, frozen with snow !”.

CONSCIOUSNESS Vs. ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE

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Consciousness is only marginally relevant to artificial intelligence (AI), because to most researchers in the field other problems seem more pressing. However, there have been proposals for how consciousness would be accounted for in a complete computational theory of the mind, from theorists such as Dennett, Hofstadter, McCarthy, McDermott, Minsky, Perlis, Sloman, and Smith. One can extract from these speculations a sketch of a theoretical synthesis,according to which consciousness is the property a system has by virtue of modelling itself as having sensations and making free decisions. Critics such as Harnad and Searle have not succeeded in demolishing a priori this or any other computational theory, but no such theory can be verified or refuted until and unless ‘artificial intelligence’ is successful in finding computational solutions of difficult problems such as vision, language, and locomotion.

As George Miller wrote in 1962, “Consciousness is a word worn smooth by a million tongues.” The term means different things to different people today, and no universally agreed “core meaning” exists. This uncertainty about how to define consciousness is partly brought about by the way global theories about consciousness (or even about the nature of the universe) have intruded into definitions. In classical Indian writings such as the Upanishads,‘consciousness’ is thought to be the essence of ‘Atman’, a primal, immanent self that is ultimately identified with ‘Brahman’- a pure,transcendental consciousness that underlies and provides the ground of being of both Man and Nature (Sen, 2008). In the classical Western tradition, “substance dualists” such as Plato and Descartes bifurcated the universe, believing it to consist of two fundamental kinds of stuff, material stuff and the stuff of consciousness (a substance associated with soul or spirit). Following the success of the brain sciences and related sciences, 20th Century theories of mind in the West became increasingly materialistic, assuming physical “stuff” to be basic, and consciousness in some way “supervening” or dependent on the existence of physical forms.

Scientists and philosophers have been pondering if we will ever create artificial intelligence that will rival human intelligence. The answer is yes ! We will be able to create artificial intelligence that will rival and even surpass human intelligence. In some areas like mathematical computation machines outpace humans by a great margin. The next question, a little tougher, will we ever be able to give this artificial intelligence sentience? Time, space and matter are the tougher phenomena to explain. Life and sentience are easier phenomenon as they use the existing time, space and matter to be created.

Examples of the kinds of stimuli that may be used to determine a patient’s responsiveness as a measure of consciousness include calling him by name, producing a sharp noise, giving simple commands, gentle shaking, pinching the biceps, and application of a blood pressure cuff. Responses to stimuli should be reported in specific terms relative to how the patient responded, whether the response was appropriate, and what occurred immediately after the response.Today, only basic examples of ‘artificial intelligence’ technology exist.  Ranging from video games to medical research, AI has permeated through various niches of society.  The particular niche of interest to many scientists is the creation of an AI system that can simulate the mind of a human. To create a piece of AI technology that is aware of its own existence is certainly a prospect that requires deep consideration. Such pieces of technology could think independently and, more importantly, make decisions based on their own will.  Learning could be done by these systems; just as a child learns to read, an intelligent machine could use its own artificial mind to simulate the same behaviour.  These forms of AI, these “living” machines, cannot be readily welcomed without first examining the negative consequences that can arise.

References

  • Asimov, I. 1942. ‘Runaround’, Astounding Science Fiction, March 1942.
  • Beauchamp, T. and Chilress, J. Principles of Biomedical Ethics. Oxford: Oxford University
  • Baars, B. J. (1988). A cognitive theory of consciousness. New York: Guilford Press.
  • Bostrom, N. 2004. ‘The Future of Human Evolution’, in Death and Anti‐Death:  Two
  • Hundred Years after Kant, Fifty Years after Turing, ed. Charles Tandy (Palo Alto, California: Ria University Press)

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EMOTIONAL INTIMACY

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Sometimes there’s that horrible hour between night and day, when the darkness mirrors your despair and you just can’t sleep. Your mind is  at war with itself and you lie awake worrying about what life may reveal tomorrow…and then the unforgiving, brutal question leaps at you like a ghost and asks, “Will you have to battle things all alone ??”.
But then, you hug your pillow tight, think of your family and friends and fend off the phantoms of doom. The deep and wonderful feeling of intimacy flourishes in an atmosphere of safety. We open up when we feel safe. We take risks when we feel safe. Even though some people rejected you from their lives, you still know that you are loved, and that there are more than a handful of people in your life who will hold you when you cry, laugh at you when you are foolish and scream at you when you are wrong.
Whether you live alone, or with someone, the hurly-burly of modern life has created its own emotional vacuums…the need to talk, share, cry, laugh and even grieve is no longer met by just one person. It’s necessary to connect with one’s  own self, before connecting with others for emotional intimacy. With good organization, dedication and perseverance in everything you do, you are already taking a step towards success, and achieving good mental health. Work on your self-esteem, as it is the starting point for nurturing your mental energy, and that will make you better inside and outside. Emotional intimacy is a psychological event that occurs when the trust level and communication between two people is such that it fosters the mutual sharing of each other’s innermost selves. It is unbridled mutual self disclosure.
In the end, its all about search for intimacy to confide to someone !!